Old Wounds and Unwanted Patterns

"How do you know if you have a wound, old baggage, an old story you are trapped in, a trigger, a sensitive spot?” (These are all the same by the way).

One of the best places to start is noticing any unwanted patterns in your life - the ones that keep coming back, no matter if you want them or not. Unwanted patterns will point you to things that are unresolved in your life. Often an old pattern is a coping mechanism that you learned as a child to keep you safe or in the good graces of your caregivers. These were the behaviors that you learned. These patterns tend to resurface despite your efforts to break free from them. 

Identify recurring situations, behaviors, or relationships that consistently bring negative outcomes or emotions. These patterns might involve difficulty in maintaining healthy relationships, self-sabotaging behaviors, or persistent feelings of inadequacy.

Observe your emotional reactions in various situations.

Notice if certain triggers consistently elicit intense or disproportionate responses from you. Your heightened reactivity can indicate areas where wounds exist. 

How do these unwanted patterns leave you feeling?

Do they evoke feelings of fear, anger, sadness, or shame? Understanding the emotional impact of these patterns can provide insights into underlying wounds.

Examine the stories or beliefs you hold about yourself and the world. Notice if these stories reinforce negative self-perceptions or limiting beliefs.

Reflect on what feels familiar about these unwanted patterns.

Consider whether they resemble experiences or dynamics from your past. Trying to aknowledge the impact of unresolved issues or traumas from your history that influence these patterns is a big step in untangling their strength.  

As we dig in and see how our old wounds effect our current behaviors, relationships and thinking patterns, we begin to unglue the automatic mechanisms and make space for ear change.

Are you interested in working on your personal development? Are you looking for a life coach or a life consultant? Are you feeling stagnant? Do you want to jumpstart change?

 My transformational approach is a process where awareness, alignment, and action work together as catalysts to create momentum for change. 

*Awareness is knowing what you genuinely want and need.

*Alignment is the symmetry between our values and our actions. It means our inner and outer worlds match.

*Action is when you are conscious that what you say, do and think are in harmony with your values.

Together we build an understanding of what you want to accomplish, and delve deeply into building awareness around any thoughts and assumptions that you may already have. To truly transform your life, I will empower you to rethink what’s possible for you.

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