Unpacking Old Stories (Part 1)
We all have old stories that stay with us, grow with us, and even corner us. These old stories seem to repeat and push us to react in ways that feel beyond our control. What if there were tools to help you unravel the old stories? Tools that help you to look at them from a different perspective? Tools that give you the feeling of having a choice, rather than getting sucked into some old cycle that feels nearly automatic?
When I feel shut up or silenced, something inside of me is triggered and I begin to react “big.” I don’t process, don’t think… I just feel and react. I get sucked into a cycle that has been going since my teenage years. I’ve watched my clients in this same story, going round and round… I have developed this short practice to help you work with your old stories and how to unravel them, so they don’t pierce us so deeply.
The first part is re-telling the story to ourselves and that meaningful and trusted outsider. Re-living it and feeling it with compassion. We get to witness what we have lived and observe it. Observe the parts that hurt us, observe the parts in which we wish we had acted differently, observe when we were treated unfairly, observe when we behaved unfairly, observe if we are ready to outgrow the story … And we take time to really feel the story and how it effected us. We think about how that story continued to reverberate in our lives.
What stories have you told yourself about yourself? Were there distortions? How can you readjust them? Is there a new viewpoint with the adult perspective? How did the old stories keep you from growing or stunt you? How did the old stories protect you? And how does re-writing those old stories effect you now? What are the other stories that are connected to this theme? What are the old feelings that you carried? What made them sensitive? What is the wound?
Please write up one of the stories in a factual manner (as a journalist would cover a story in the news), then write about how you felt and what the residual feelings are. How has this story left an imprint on you? You are not blaming your parents/attachment figure/loved one. You are trying to understand yourself more fully to own and allow all the emotions that were unsafe to feel and react to when they happened. You are safe now. You now have the freedom to process.
Your emotions are real and need to be unbottled and explored. You will find freedom in this. You will touch your partner to their core when you share from that vulnerable place and you will be able to be with yourself more intimately.
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