Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
“Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs is used to study how humans intrinsically partake in behavioral motivation. Maslow used the terms "physiological", "safety", "belonging and love", "social needs" or "esteem", and "self-actualization" to describe the pattern through which human motivations generally move. This means that in order for motivation to arise at the next stage, each stage must be satisfied within the individual themselves.” —Wikipedia
No one ever prepared us for life to be this complicated. As we are more privileged (i.e. the higher up you get on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs), the more complicated life becomes. As long as we are fighting for our basic needs like: food, water, shelter, warmth, and rest, we don’t have time to ponder deeper issues. As each level on the pyramid of needs gets fulfilled there is space for more pondering and deeper analysis. Our privilege is also our source of unhappiness, or our unhappiness with what we have is a marker of our privilege.
As more of our basics are covered, we search for more meaning, we need more, we want more, etc…
On the other hand, many of us are sucked into the system of material wants. In a way, this is simpler… as you pine for material items, you get them and achieve the goal. As you pine for self-actualization, authenticity, and deep connection with others, many of us don’t even know what we are looking for. We need to write the rules as we search. We are inventors. We are the creators of our world.
Creating your own world can be very confusing: how do you know if you are doing it right? How do we know we have achieved success? How do we know if our doubts are valid or self-destructive tendencies born out of fear of failure? How do we know which rules to follow?
All these questions are part of the path. When we decide we need to build our own way, we end up needing to make decisions about if we want all the conventions we grew up with. Our ethical stance becomes a decision. We decide how we live and what is right. We have the time and space to decide (rather than being swept away in correctness out of fear of being caught or disenfranchised).
Life becomes more complicated with more choices, when you live it responsibly. If you need help navigating your path, working with a life consultant is a helpful choice. The endeavor of self-actualization is ardorous, facilitate your journey with a guide.
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*Awareness is knowing what you genuinely want and need.
*Alignment is the symmetry between our values and our actions. It means our inner and outer worlds match.
*Action is when you are conscious that what you say, do and think are in harmony with your values.
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