Fighting The Big Kids or Empowerment
When I was a little girl, maybe four or five years old, I was tiny. I was smaller than the other kids, I was picked on. I was an easy target. Small and very sensitive. You could easily get a reaction out of me. A great target. Get ready this isn’t politically correct but… my dad said to me “anytime someone hits you, hit them back twice as hard.” This might sound strange, but the confidence that advice gave me is a big part of who I am now.
I am not advocating for violence and using fists before words BUT the idea that my dad told me that he believed that tiny little ME could handle the bigger kids myself AND not need to call an adult to protect me gave me a huge boost.
To trust that I could protect myself and was strong enough left me with the feeling that I was powerful.
I do believe there is a huge subtlety here; we want our kids and adults to use words to solve problems. We don’t want physical aggression to be the first weapon. We want people to use kindness and try to understand others before turning in a defensive position. But there are times when all else fails and it is time for a bullied kid, adult, etc… to stand up and feel the confidence to defend themselves.
Today, I am reflecting on the advice that served to make me feel capable of fighting most battles: from the teasing in middle school (a hard time for most young people), to the challenges with work, children, husband, and even the mugger who stole my cell phone two years ago while I was out hiking… My feeling of being capable of taking care of myself and protecting my values, body and interests has not faded. But maybe I am just stubborn?
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